A CUTTING COMMENT MADE TO US IN CHILDHOOD OR IN AN EMOTIONALLY CHARGED SITUATION CAN BECOME LOCKED INTO THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND AND ACCEPTED AS FACT.
If you were taunted as a child that you were fat, it can lead to a lifetime of yo-yo dieting or even an eating disorder. If you were told repeatedly that you were stupid or useless, you may never trust your abilities and settle for a job that's way beneath what you're actually capable of. If a jealous ex told you that you were unattractive or unlovable, it could lead to a lifetime of poor relationship choices or intimacy issues.
This criticism and negativity may have once come from someone else at a vulnerable moment in your life, but now you're replaying it over and over. It's all coming from you. It's like an annoying song stuck in your head that won't go away.
WHAT IF YOU JUST TURNED IT OFF?
"I went to see Claire after I had hit a confidence wall. I had previously been abused physically and mentally as a child - the point of being told I was stupid everyday took its toll, despite getting a degree and Masters. Thanks to Claire, it was like a huge weight has been lifted out of my head - years of hurt gone.
Claire, I can't thank you enough." —Tracey
We're all carrying around emotional baggage, even if we're not consciously aware of it. Very often we have deeply held beliefs about ourselves that affect the way we live our lives. Even if you're aware that these beliefs are wrong,
there's a part of your subconscious mind that will continue to hold you back and make you doubt yourself.
When I work with clients I find the part that's clinging to the unhelpful belief and reassure it that it's time to let it go. It can feel like a weight being lifted, a lightness or the sudden absence of a feeling that was so much a part of you that you never realised you'd been dragging it around all these years.
ASK YOURSELF: WHAT LIMITING BELIEFS DO I HAVE ABOUT MY OWN ABILITIES, AND HOW WILL MY LIFE IMPROVE WHEN I ELIMINATE THEM FOR GOOD?
"I have found life tough at times and lately my employment has not been reliable and therefore, as fulfilling. I have had a few good years of financial insecurity and a few knocks, which had hit my confidence. I wanted to do better, but I felt the feelings of fear and failure at the thought.
Claire helped me to stop overthinking and worrying about the things I cannot change and for my subconscious to push me for the things I want. I now feel that I am ready to tackle things again."