DO YOU CONTROL YOUR DRINKING, OR DOES IT CONTROL YOU?
We're halfway through Dry January, and a lot of people are already struggling. Others are managing to abstain, but there's a strong chance they'll go back to their old habits as soon as February 1st arrives. Dry January is a great way to raise awareness of alcohol abuse, and when people realise how much better they feel when they don't drink they're motivated to change their habits permanently.
But it's not always so easy to change.
Most of us enjoy a drink occasionally, it's a normal part of life. A glass of wine with dinner, bubbly at a wedding, a few pints at the pub with friends. It starts to become a problem when you find yourself going straight for the wine after a stressful day at work; one glass turns into a bottle, then into two. You get used to going to work with a fuzzy head every morning, and can't wait to get home for a glass of wine.
Alcohol dependency creeps up on you.
Maybe when you go on a night out with friends, you don't know how to stop when you've had enough. You're feeling happy, having a good time, and you decide to have just one more. Or you have social anxiety, and drink to feel confident or to fit in. But that last drink is like falling off the edge of a cliff. You've lost your judgement and now you can't stop.
NEXT MORNING YOU WAKE WITH A HANGOVER AND A FEELING OF DREAD.
Do you know what you did last night?
Did you drunk text your ex? Dance naked on the bar? Tell your boss what you really think of him? The creeping anxiety, shame and guilt build up to panic. You daren't look at your phone or social media in case there's incriminating photographic evidence. You can't face your friends. You feel embarrassed at the thought of what you might have done.
You swear you'll never drink again.
But of course you do. Next time you go out you have the best intentions; you won't lose control this time. But that cliff edge is right there, and you can't help falling over it again and again.
SIGNS THAT IT MAY BE TIME TO ASK FOR HELP
Do you drink to drown out your problems, to relax or to get to sleep?
Do you wish you could drink socially without getting drunk?
Do you prefer to drink alone, rather than with other people?
Is your drinking negatively affecting your work or education?
Have you ever tried to stop drinking, or to drink less, and found that you can’t?
Do you drink in the morning, before work?
Do you ever lose your memory because of your drinking?
Do you lie to friends and family about how much or how often you drink?
Do other people comment on your drinking and think it’s a problem?
ANSWERED "YES" TO ANY OF THE ABOVE? NOW HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS.
You don't have to give up drinking entirely, unless you WANT to!
The 12-step programs, while really valuable to some people, focus on eliminating alcohol completely. They require you to repeatedly state that you have a problem.
"I AM an alcoholic".
This puts a behavioural issue, a habit, at the level of identity. It states that this is just who you are, and the only way to deal with it is to avoid alcohol forever. It places you permanently in a group of people who reinforce that mindset: that you're a slave to drink and you always will be.
There is another way!
MODERATION BEATS DEPRIVATION!
Drinking excessively is a learned behaviour pattern. It's like giving a baby a dummy: "I feel bad, make me feel good. Quickly!" You learn that you feel less socially awkward, less stressed or more confident with a few drinks down you, so your subconscious mind latches onto that and always offers another drink as a solution to those feelings. Once this becomes compulsive it's hard, if not impossible, to break the cycle with willpower alone. Total abstinence can seem like the only answer: remove temptation completely by committing to never drink again.
But what if you were not only able to have just one glass of wine with a meal, but you only WANT one glass and just don't fancy a second one?
Hypnosis puts YOU back in control!
HOW WILL HYPNOSIS WORK FOR YOU?
When you work with me, the first thing I ask you to do is decide the new thought or behaviour pattern you want. If you prefer to never drink again, we can work on that. If you want to just have one alcoholic drink when you're out and then switch to soft drinks, no problem!
Common results clients ask for are:
"I have no desire to drink at all".
"I only want one glass of wine after work, and don't need to keep drinking".
"I am able to stop before I get drunk".
"I know when I've had enough and it's time to go home".
"I drink for enjoyment but never need alcohol to make me feel better".
WHATEVER YOUR ISSUE WITH DRINKING IS, GET IN TOUCH FOR A FREE, CONFIDENTIAL CHAT TO FIND OUT HOW I CAN HELP YOU!